Stephen’s Advice
Question: Was there anything your husband did or said that helped?
I’m in a similar bind with my ex-fiancé. It’s hard to talk to him without getting into arguments.
I’ve asked Stephen to answer that question for you. Here’s what he wrote:
The first critical question to answer for yourself is: “How important is this relationship to me?” If this is a relationship that you feel strongly you want to save, then you can do that. It will require putting some of your own beliefs aside—at least for the time being—so you don’t spend precious energy arguing about things you clearly disagree about.
Patience is key. This may be a phase, and this may be long term—even a forever shift. You just can’t know. I was advised to contemplate this two ways:
One: Think of this akin to something far less contentious, like a nonreligious person finding Jesus and becoming a Born Again Christian or embracing some other evangelical belief system. Once converted, the world is different for them.